I’m an expert at complicating things, particularly if they’re to do with my inner world! And I’ve found one of the reasons that causes me to take this route. Taking myself too seriously!
For instance, I’ve been working really hard (there’s a sign that something’s amiss!) at finding a simple way of describing how I can help people through coaching. Everyone (I know, this is a major generalisation!) says that it’s best to have a niche. And this niche is best described so that it addresses either a problem a potential client has or a solution s/he wants.
Along the way I listened to various marketing experts, and by the end of it all I had so many things to consider, including Cialdini’s 6 principles of influence – reciprocity, consistency/commitment, authority, social validation, scarcity and liking. Oh yes, and James Lavers’ 6 principles of Distance Persuasion to this – belonging, envy/emulation, ownership, significance, status and validation (go to http://www.nlpconnections.com/nlp-business-sales/13327-free-report-reveals-6-principles-distance-persuasion.html to find out more). Then add onto this my beliefs etc about how I need to be in relation to this all – and in comes taking myself too seriously!
However, after struggling for over a year, it just fell into place. Just in case you want to know the words, they are that I want to help individuals and organisations make work an enjoyable and satisfying experience!
And what helped it fall into place? First of all, reminding myself to lighten up! This fits with one of my core values, happiness. Within this value I include fun and enjoyment. So this helped me live this value more truly. Then I played on another core value, well-being, which includes openness. For me to be open I still my mind and let my intuition come to the fore (another part of well-being). I asked myself “what is the common theme in my work with people and organisations?” and up popped the thought “well you want people to be happy at work”.
Now within positive psychology research indicates that happiness is made up of four components (I thank Lucy Ryan for this information from http://www.positiveinsights.wordpress.com):
– pleasure (the fun stuff in life, emotional, delight, momentary)
– passion (engaging activities, in flow, fully absorbed, challenging)
– purpose (meaning beyond self, gives you fulfilment, bigger picture)
– people (relationships that nourish, interest and fulfil you, giving and nurturing friendships, people you love who love you back)
I believe this summarises what I want work to be for everyone. However, not everyone would know about these components – hence replacing the word ‘happy’ to give a bit more clarity yet still simply stated.
For a person who espouses living your values, I was a bit slow on the uptake to use my own! This is just proof that strengths and core values are NOT interchangeable! And I’m finding new ways all the time.